Women shouldn’t have to change for anyone, and there are definite no-no’s when it comes to changing these things about you in order to make your partner happy.

Her personality

Like all things about you, your personality is a huge part of how you go about your daily life. Your personality defines how people interact with you and perceive you, by steering away from your true self you’re altering who you are in your core. You need to be with someone that appreciates your personality as a whole!

Her career

Women have sacrificed so much to earn a seat at a table full of men, so why should you change your career goals for your partner? If her partner is either threatened by her success, wants to be more successful than her, or thinks her career isn’t important, they’d want her to change jobs. If this happens simply change your partner; the right person will value your goals and aspirations no matter what you do.

Her close relationships

Having good relationships with family, friends and colleagues is vital to your sanity. If your partner doesn’t like your friends or vise versa it can be tough – that doesn’t mean you need to cut them out. Ask yourself why your partner doesn’t like your friends, it can narrow down to them being insecure and jealous that you can have fun without them.

Her appearance

We have been told you can’t be too thin or fat, too light or dark, too white or ethnic, too tall or short – women are told by society and media constantly that their appearance isn’t good enough. When a partner makes us feel this way too, it’s not a good sign. They should embrace your appearance no matter what. Colour your hair, get lash extensions, put on fake tan; do whatever you want to do but only because you want to do it. Your partner doesn’t like it? Their problem!

Her religion

Religion can divide people or bring them together. You’re an adult and capable of making your own decisions so it’s your choice whether you want to follow a particular faith. Having a religious upbringing can also influence our relationships – if your partner wants your beliefs to be shifted or change to another religion, it can put a strain on things especially between you and your family life.

Her style

Being a unique woman today is the most rebellious thing you can do, and your style shows the world how you want to express yourself every day. Whether it be with clothing, accessories, hair-do’s, makeup or your mannerisms, your style is something no one can take away from you. Your individuality makes you a presence in the room, and if a partner wants to dull your shine it’s time to say goodbye!

Her political views

Discussing politics in relationships can result in anywhere from a heated discussion to an actual argument. Even though it’s handy to be with someone who shares some political views with you, you don’t have to agree on everything. However, if your partner is pushing to change your views on a topic, don’t feel the need to agree with them. If you feel like your differing views are a deal-breaker it might be time to move on.

Her passions

Work, religion or politics can come under what women are passionate about, our passions usually fill up our spare time. You can be passionate about going for a run in the morning, painting watercolours in the afternoon sun, or going to an underground music gig. Your passions are a driving force that ties together your personality, style and sometimes your appearance, and it becomes part of your narrative. Be with someone who not only loves your passions but encourages you to see them through!