How To Be Single, Minus The Sexual Frustration

Single and just over dealing with men right now? While those stories of 102-year-old women who say their secret to longevity was swearing off men, you’re still fairly young and have sexual needs that must be met.

If you’re not looking for a long-term relationship but also don’t want cobwebs occupying your lady space, check out these ideas to manage your sexual needs and keep your schedule free from bad dates.

Friends with benefits

Engage with another person at your own pace and have a real sexual encounter, but many women aren’t sure how to execute it. There is a stigma surrounding the ‘friends with benefits’ scenario; majority of people believe one person will catch feelings for the other and sex will ultimately ruin a good friendship.

You might come across someone you’re instantly attracted to but not sure if they’d be someone you’d introduce to your parents. This dynamic is perfect for a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship; you could have started dating but your personalities didn’t match but there’s no denying your mutual sexual chemistry is off the charts.

So how can you make this relationship work and get rid of your orgasm deficiencies for good? Look for a ‘friend’ that respects you and your boundaries while listening to your needs in the bedroom — you want to rip their clothes off and vise versa. You must be comfortable enough to talk about what you like and dislike, and be okay to ask for a quickie when you need it (after all your time is valuable).

Establish the relationship is purely based on sex and respect, you’re not here to catch feels or lose someone you care about. Initiate with a simple ‘you free tonight?’ text when you’re feeling frisky, and make sure to keep text conversations booty-call related. Get started with a bottle of wine or an easy-going movie to settle into the night, you’ll notice how much easier it is to get into foreplay when you’re both feeling comfortable.

You can still date and play the field but also need to consider their feelings; if you’ve been sleeping around and haven’t been tested recently, it’s best to give them a heads up before you catch up next – thinking about their health is super respectful, and you’d want them to do the same for you.

If you start to produce romantic feelings for them, unfortunately the ‘with benefits’ part needs to drop off. In most cases, the one who doesn’t have feelings won’t magically wake up one day and feel the same, while in rare cases it could blossom into an actual relationship. Cut the benefits off once feelings begin to surface to save everyone from heartache and potentially losing a friend.

Oh boy, toys!

If you’re not into the politics of ‘friends with benefits’ and just want to release your frustrations solo, welcome to the world of adult toys. While most women won’t admit they use them, we need to understand there’s absolutely no shame in taking care of business yourself!

No need to pop into adult stores constantly looking over your shoulder — with a simple Google search you can find thousands of safe battery-operated or organic options that’ll give you a glow you just can’t get with moisturiser. Take yourself on a date night at home: light some candles, pour another glass of wine, play your sensual music and say yes to the self-care you need.

If you’re new to the game why not ease in with a penetration-style pleasure wand. If you’re more into simulation then take on a vibrator and let the orgasms flow all night; remember to read the reviews of each product too! This option means you don’t have to rely on someone else to give you a good time, because it’s right there in your underwear drawer whenever you need it.

Whether you’re into experiencing a full-blown sex session or just in the mood for me, myself, and I, being single doesn’t mean a life of celibacy. Your sex life is an important factor in everyday functioning because it releases endorphins which lightens your mood and produces good chemicals, giving you the confidence to take on the world!